The Bathroom: Secret Haven of Self Absorption

Posted on July 23, 2016


Showers are for convenience. They’re practical. But the bath tub? Bathing is an oasis. The ritual of bathing has nothing to do with cleanliness; tub bathing is a simple luxury that requires nothing more than a commitment to yourself to take care of you.  Once hooked, tub time becomes sacred time where the bathroom is transformed into sacred space.

Mark Hampton was a famous 20th century Interior Designer to the American elite, including the likes of President and Mrs. George Bush and Estee Lauder.  He was best known for creating rooms that were comfortable and inviting. Mr. Hampton said that of all the decorating and remodeling projects a person undertakes in their lifetime, the bathroom is the most taxing because bathrooms “provide a place for private pampering, for a sybaritic mood that might otherwise be frowned upon. Hidden from the scrutiny of others, these rooms are secret havens of self-absorption”


Imagine your very own secret haven of self-absorption, what does it look like? What would it take to transform your bathroom into your own secret haven of self- absorption, a place where no one will judge you, rush you, or bother you.

My Wednesday Night Bath ritual goes like this: I announce that I am taking a bath. No one bothers me for that hour. The cell phone does not join me in the tub. Anything work related is off limits. I light fragrant candles. Sometimes I will apply a facial mask, or deep conditioning treatment on my hair.

I fill the tub with water and add a bath salt, soak, or oil. I have a pillow suctioned cupped to the back of my tub and I ease myself in the hot water, lean back on that pillow and I intentionally breathe-in the scents in the air as I sip a glass of wine or a cup of green tea with honey. I will then read a magazine or book in the tub. Sometimes I will listen to music or a motivational podcast, but in general I find quiet and solitude to be most relaxing. I don’t meditate in the traditional sense of the word, but I do make an effort to not allow things that are stressing me out, weighing me down, or bothering me to creep into my thoughts. I shut them off.

Do you daydream about a “Spa Day”, a place you can escape to and be pampered for an hour, four, or six? In real life how often does this happen? Consider this for a moment: take that money earmarked for a spa day and instead spend it on things to create your own Bathing Ritual Basket. Tuck that basket of goodies away in a closet, and then once a week pull out that basket, lock the bathroom door and a Secret Hour of Self-Absorption in your own home.

You do not need persmission or a special occasion to take care of you, or to treat yourself. All you need is a promise to yourself to recharge your own battery. Maybe a bathing oasis for you is three times a week, or maybe it’s just once a month. But schedule it; just as you schedule your routine dental cleaning and mamogram. Self care is a commitment to taking care of you so that you have the energy to take care of all the people and things that are relying on you.

Bathing Ritual Basket Things To Consider:
Natural sea sponges and bath mitts
Thick, soft, oversized cotton bath towel
Fragrant candles
Handcrafted soaps
Luscious lotions
Fragrant bath and body oils
Essential oils
Bath soaks and salts
Hydrating facial masks
Over the tub bath tray to hold everything
Tub pillow
Long handled bath brush
Fancy teas
Gourmet chocolates or nuts
A crystal glass for your wine or cocktail
Special mug for your tea
Music or Relaxation CD’s, Audio Books

It’s fun to shop for my Bathing Ritual Basket; when I’m out and about, I always have an eye out for products and things that I can add to my basket and look forward to indulging in on Wednesday nights. Sometimes the splurge is a new scent or product sample, and sometimes its a $8 candy bar.

Start your Bathing Ritual Basket collection today. Commit to #treatyoself.

Celebrate Tub Time!
XO, Lisa